Yet more posting, this time a bit more thoughtful....

[hel_ana]

I just had a conversation via IM with the not-so-annoying coworker in the loft. It came about because one of the annoying new guys made it crystal clear that he's super happy that I'm leaving.


me@mybrighthouse.com: It's good to know that T likes me about as much as I like him.
coworker@mybrighthouse.com: lol
coworker@mybrighthouse.com: that definately shows
me@mybrighthouse.com: Well, at least I should be able to get some packing help out of it.
me@mybrighthouse.com: Is it obvious that I don't like him?
coworker@mybrighthouse.com: yup
me@mybrighthouse.com: How?
coworker@mybrighthouse.com: but i dunno... you kinda come across that way to everyone
coworker@mybrighthouse.com: so not definately
me@mybrighthouse.com: I come accross as disliking everyone?
coworker@mybrighthouse.com: uh huh
me@mybrighthouse.com: really?
me@mybrighthouse.com: Even td?
coworker@mybrighthouse.com: or maybe more condescending
coworker@mybrighthouse.com: which comes across as not liking.....doesnt bother me cuz i know that is just how you are
me@mybrighthouse.com: Huh. Interesting.
me@mybrighthouse.com: I wonder why that is.

So, you who know me best, do you have any perspective on this for me? I'm honestly curious and open to anything you're going to throw out.

Comments

[ross-winn.livejournal.com]

The fact that the guy you are talking about is a very pushy nor'eastern jackass is a glaring omission in your analysis. Unless you are kissing this guys ass you would be seen as stand-offish. This hasn't been a long-term job challenge for you. I don't think it wil be, espescially when you aren't marooned by your boss, working alone, and institutionally forced not to communicate with your co-workers.

of course I am biased.

You, biased? ;)

[hel_ana]

Oh sure, by the guy we were talking *about*.

At issue is the analysis of the guy I was talking *to*, who's Florida born and bred, and is quite far from a "very pushy nor'eastern jackass". Which is why the very pushy nor'eastern jackass was rude about the leaving thing "hey, when? can we help you pack", and everyone else (including the other pushy nor'eastern guy from philly and the floridian) has been much more polite about it and interested in the job.

[ross-winn.livejournal.com]

curious. however the fact that you are the most self contained woman I know may have something to do with it.