Yet more posting, this time a bit more thoughtful....

[hel_ana]

I just had a conversation via IM with the not-so-annoying coworker in the loft. It came about because one of the annoying new guys made it crystal clear that he's super happy that I'm leaving.


me@mybrighthouse.com: It's good to know that T likes me about as much as I like him.
coworker@mybrighthouse.com: lol
coworker@mybrighthouse.com: that definately shows
me@mybrighthouse.com: Well, at least I should be able to get some packing help out of it.
me@mybrighthouse.com: Is it obvious that I don't like him?
coworker@mybrighthouse.com: yup
me@mybrighthouse.com: How?
coworker@mybrighthouse.com: but i dunno... you kinda come across that way to everyone
coworker@mybrighthouse.com: so not definately
me@mybrighthouse.com: I come accross as disliking everyone?
coworker@mybrighthouse.com: uh huh
me@mybrighthouse.com: really?
me@mybrighthouse.com: Even td?
coworker@mybrighthouse.com: or maybe more condescending
coworker@mybrighthouse.com: which comes across as not liking.....doesnt bother me cuz i know that is just how you are
me@mybrighthouse.com: Huh. Interesting.
me@mybrighthouse.com: I wonder why that is.

So, you who know me best, do you have any perspective on this for me? I'm honestly curious and open to anything you're going to throw out.

Comments

[ilanajayne.livejournal.com]

I don't think this is true.

Let me think back to when we met... hmm... (that was a while ago, wasn't it...)

No, not condescending. Actually, you were quite friendly. And you seemed to like me right away, which actually, most people do not.

It could be because your Canadian-ness is off-putting to Americans. Not sure about that, though, as Dave and I never had any problems in the States when we were down there. And you knew Dave, he could be very off-putting when he wanted to be.

[hel_ana]

1993.

And I did like you right away. I like most people right away -- just some of them not so much after getting to know them.

I wonder about the natural reserve I know I have (hell, I'm more reserved than most of my mother's side of the family and they're all canucks) and if it's got any effect.

[ilanajayne.livejournal.com]

I don't find you more reserved than anyone else I know, but then that could be a Canadian thing. We might be getting circular here.

I know I am not really friends with my co-workers, even though I have worked with most of them for years. I have one or two that have become friends over the years, but that is it. I don't talk about personal things at work, unless they become obvious in some way. Most people I work with are the same way, really.

It has been too long since I was in the States - it could be different there. Some people in Cerritos were willing to dump all their personal information on a near-stranger when I was out there. That could be more prevalent than I thought.

[hel_ana]

unless they become obvious in some way

::snicker::

;)