There's a difference between being pleasant to folks whom you're not fond of and being no-bullshit. The former is a matter of social protocol. The latter means that you don't go out of your way to schmooze and engage in meaningless conversation.
As an example, I can't imagine you going out of your way to ask your cow-irkers about their kids, what they did last weekend, etc. unless you were in a situation with them (in the lunch room, or waiting for a meeting, etc.) where such protocol was the norm.
Americans think if you're not actively engaging them on a social level, you're unfriendly.
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Date: 2005-04-07 05:19 pm (UTC)As an example, I can't imagine you going out of your way to ask your cow-irkers about their kids, what they did last weekend, etc. unless you were in a situation with them (in the lunch room, or waiting for a meeting, etc.) where such protocol was the norm.
Americans think if you're not actively engaging them on a social level, you're unfriendly.